Thursday, February 11, 2010
I'm so fed up with EVERYONE!!!
I was just talking with my mom (her and my sis in-law are very close) So much so that at times I tend to be a little jealous. Anyways, she tells me to just be happy for her. I told her that nobody knows how it feels to have someone continuously chatting to you about trying to have a baby and the problems they are having and then compare it to you like its the same thing when its NOT. I told her that they will never know how I feel or go through everyday of my life. Her response..Well your not going through it right now...WTF No mom my infertility only exists when I'm going through the many different treatments, my pain only exists when I'm doing IVF or having surgery. Didn't realize it was something that I could just put on the back burner until the next time I start to poke myself...Is this the idiot speech day or something??
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And you also don't have 2 other children, as she does, that you can love and hug when you DO put it on the back burner..
ReplyDeleteNobody understands. Even the ones who try so hard and actually WANT to understand, don't understand. That's why we have eachother!
I hope your day gets better, girl. Go get a pedicure or something. Or better yet, go have a strong drink. That's what usually makes me feel better when I'm pissed at IF :)
Holy Crap! Seriously, is it Stomp On Krissy Day? What a horribly insensitive and ignorant thing to say. I'm sorry your "support system" is so broken. I guess they all are, though. Even my mom, who works in a profession that should equip her to be more understanding and sensitive than the average person, says some dumb stuff sometimes.
ReplyDeleteCHOP CHOP CHOP to your mom, too! (#_#)
I call this a "I HATE EVERYONE DAY", so sorry your family has their collective head up their ass.
ReplyDeleteI think it is stomp on me day :(
ReplyDeleteYou girls really are the only support system I have, Even though we each have different reasons for being here we all have the same goal and understands at least to some extent what we have to deal with each day.
This is not something we choose to have in our lives, nor is it something that we don't deal with everyday probably until the day we die. We will always wonder why we are "abnormal" Even when we do get pregnant the worries will NEVER end. It sucks when people (esp. family) feel that we only have to deal with this while going through treatment, I deal with this pain every F******* day of my life. When I see someone with a baby, or another family member announces an "oopsie" pregnancy, when I'm in a shopping mall and someone asks me how far along I am just because I look a little heavier, when I'm going to friends b-day parties or get togethers and all they can talk about is their kids and how far they have come, when I'm at work and the pregnant chick keeps touching her tummy when she passes me, when I'm eating, or sleeping, or when I'm at church, or walking down the street, when I'm at home, in the shower, watching T.V, at the grocery store, or when hubby and I are cuddling up on the couch. I'm reminded that I'm a failure EVERYDAY of my life so just because I'm not dealing with a specific treatment right now, doesn't mean I'm not dealing with IF. It exists and it's not just something that will eventually go away when I want it to. I just wish they would get it and leave me the heck alone. I regret telling ANYONE about this!!
Thanks Jess, Everyday lately seems to be an I hate EVERYONE day for me :p
ReplyDeleteWell said, Krissy! So true...it is with us all the time.
ReplyDeleteKrissy -- we haven't told anyone at all, but that doesn't stop you from feeling like a complete failure as a woman anyway. Still, I'm sorry you are surrounded by complete idiots -- no disrespect intended to your mom, of course.
ReplyDeleteI really wish I would have thought twice about telling my family about this too, I guess I have to be happy that DH's family knows NOTHING and will NEVER know. I could just imagine the criticism from them!!
ReplyDeleteI fire back at the dumb ass comments now. So does DH. I gave people warnings (ie 3 strikes you're out) and if the stupid comments kept coming then I would respond. Have to admit the frequency of the insensitive comments has tappered off. But then again so has my friend pool!!!
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