Tuesday, March 2, 2010
Monday, March 1, 2010
To Adopt or Not To Adopt
So DH and I had some hefty discussions over the weekend. It all started on Friday night. We went to the clubhouse for dinner. It was packed and the staff was nice enough to seat us in a side room. So basically we had it all to ourselves. DH was pondering an initial job offer that had come through which would allow him to work in Atlanta. Somehow during the conversation it turned to whether or not we would do another IVF, donor egg and then it moved to adoption. All of it was good thoughtful conversation until I started bawling like a baby. It just came from out of nowhere. DH was shocked and worried about me. Luckily this happened at the end of the dinner after we had paid and were getting ready to leave. We went home and talked a bit more. I felt better and then we fell fast asleep.
Saturday we didn't really talk about what happened but were very productive and did "10" errands as DH likes to proudly point out. Honestly, he really does need a medal for bouncing around town with me! That night we went to a 40th birthday party in our neighborhood. At the party this couple (who just moved in next door to our friend) walks in and brings their 5 day old little girl who I avoided like the plague. DH spoke with them briefly. He's much stronger than I. Two of our other friends have the cutest 18 month olds. After seeing all this cuteness DH pulls me aside and says, "Maybe we can adopt a baby. I want a baby." So cute & sweet. I wanted to bawl again but maintained my composure since we were at the party.
So DH did some online research this morning and we realized how much it might actually cost to adopt! Holy buckets. Is it really $30k? During the application process do they look at your bank statements, etc.? Should we have more than the $30K in the bank excluding 401K's, IRA's? Anyone know anyone who has gone through this?
Looks like I'll be eating ramen noodles for the next few months to help pad our bank accounts!! Oh, and on a more positive (I think) note...my beta is down to 700 from 5800. My body is getting back to normal faster than I thought it would.
Saturday we didn't really talk about what happened but were very productive and did "10" errands as DH likes to proudly point out. Honestly, he really does need a medal for bouncing around town with me! That night we went to a 40th birthday party in our neighborhood. At the party this couple (who just moved in next door to our friend) walks in and brings their 5 day old little girl who I avoided like the plague. DH spoke with them briefly. He's much stronger than I. Two of our other friends have the cutest 18 month olds. After seeing all this cuteness DH pulls me aside and says, "Maybe we can adopt a baby. I want a baby." So cute & sweet. I wanted to bawl again but maintained my composure since we were at the party.
So DH did some online research this morning and we realized how much it might actually cost to adopt! Holy buckets. Is it really $30k? During the application process do they look at your bank statements, etc.? Should we have more than the $30K in the bank excluding 401K's, IRA's? Anyone know anyone who has gone through this?
Looks like I'll be eating ramen noodles for the next few months to help pad our bank accounts!! Oh, and on a more positive (I think) note...my beta is down to 700 from 5800. My body is getting back to normal faster than I thought it would.
Sunday, February 28, 2010
Am I crazy or just a normal IF?
I was supposed to be having my 3rd beta tomorrow but instead I drove myself straight to my RE's office first thing Thursday morning and demanded one! I've been spotting on an off since before I got my positve results. (TMI alert!) I haven't worried too much because I know that can be normal and it's been very light and more of a brownish and some times pink. Well on Wednesday I noticed that I was having some odd twinges and abdominal pains. Not cramps...but definitely something. It had me a bit worried but I thought I'd wait it out a little while. I went to lunch with some co-workers and by the time I got back I realized that the pains had stopped! I was just thinking too much about it. But then I went to the bathroom and noticed that I was no bleeding. Red. And to top it off the twinges and pains came back.
I immediately ran into an emtpy office and called my RE's office. My nurse asked me questions about what I was feeling and about the bleeding and then continued to reassure me that everything I was telling her was common and to just take it easy, lay down when I got home, drink plenty of water and try not to worry (ha!). She did tell me that if I wanted to I could make an appointment for Thursday or Friday for another beta. They would have done an u/s but it was just too early in the pgncy for them to see anything. I told her that from her reassurances I felt okay about it and if it didn't go away or if it got worse over night I would call them the next day.
Sure enough that night, even though I went straight to the couch and didn't get up for anything until it was time to go to bed, the bleeding got a bit worse. Needless to say the next morning I didn't even bother calling them. I went straight to their office and got there right after they opened.
Thankfully when I got the beta back that afternoon everything was great!! My beta was 989.9. Exactly what it should be!! I felt 100 times better! And that night the bleeding even went back to a brownish spotting. But because my RE was so happy with my beta #'s they decided I didn't need to keep my appointment for another beta on Monday. I'm wishing they would've kept it, especially because I'm bleeding again today. :o( I feel like it's probably nothing again but I just can't help but worry! Is it going to be like this the entire pregnancy?! Or at least 1st trimester?! Do fertiles worry about every little thing like this?
I immediately ran into an emtpy office and called my RE's office. My nurse asked me questions about what I was feeling and about the bleeding and then continued to reassure me that everything I was telling her was common and to just take it easy, lay down when I got home, drink plenty of water and try not to worry (ha!). She did tell me that if I wanted to I could make an appointment for Thursday or Friday for another beta. They would have done an u/s but it was just too early in the pgncy for them to see anything. I told her that from her reassurances I felt okay about it and if it didn't go away or if it got worse over night I would call them the next day.
Sure enough that night, even though I went straight to the couch and didn't get up for anything until it was time to go to bed, the bleeding got a bit worse. Needless to say the next morning I didn't even bother calling them. I went straight to their office and got there right after they opened.
Thankfully when I got the beta back that afternoon everything was great!! My beta was 989.9. Exactly what it should be!! I felt 100 times better! And that night the bleeding even went back to a brownish spotting. But because my RE was so happy with my beta #'s they decided I didn't need to keep my appointment for another beta on Monday. I'm wishing they would've kept it, especially because I'm bleeding again today. :o( I feel like it's probably nothing again but I just can't help but worry! Is it going to be like this the entire pregnancy?! Or at least 1st trimester?! Do fertiles worry about every little thing like this?
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