I hate trying to put web links on the blog. Maybe I'm doing something wrong. If you google Washington Post Too Much to Carry...the story will come up. Sorry!
i found it. Bbchi, almost made me cry too. and i'm not in your situation. your decision is sound. your sister has children of her own that need to he thought of as well.
the article was very well written (style wise), which resonates to reader...probably why we almost cried.
Wow.... The article is very moving. I don't know what I would do in that position~ thought about it many times, and have no resolve or solution. What does everyone else think?
Not sure if you know, BBB, we will be going thru that procedure 4.7.10. 4 to 2. It's not a situation we ever wanted to be in and if I could go back and put 2 embryos instead of 3, I probably would (one split). But it's too risky to have such preemie babies and too risky for my sister's health (she's my surrogate...not sure if you know) to go forward this way. It's sad and it sucks, but it's what we have to do.
Very eye-opening article. I choked up a few times too. I hope I am never put in the position you are in, BBChi, but if I were, I would not hesitate for one second to do the same thing.
bbchi - I knew your sister was your surrogate (angel) but I didn't know the rest. I completely know how hard this must be for you and can only imagine the thoughts and emotions that you and your husband have gone through - continue to go through. It must have been disorienting when you heard the news. If I were in your situation, I too would take the steps to ensure a healthy pregnancy. I have no judgement, only empathy and without sounding trite, my heart goes out to you and I hope for the best results possible.
"hope2bpregnant" are you going through something similar?
It's kinda a cosmic twist for those of us that TTC and have losses only to go, as stated in the article, to "famine to feast..."
Wow- that is such a moving article. BBCHI. I had no idea you had to go through this, but you are right, you cannot risk the health or your sister or the babies. I highly commend you for everything your about to go through, you are a brave woman. Good luck!!
Hey BB - I clicked the little pencil icon to edit the post. Then I clicked "Link" (it's blue and underlined)...that gives you the option to enter the web address and also to choose the text you wish to display, so you don't have to have just the web address show. You can do this while making a new post, too. Just look for the blue, underlined "Link" at the top of the box where all the tools are for font, etc.
bbchi - thanks for sharing the article, it was very well written, and I also got choked up a little. I feel that you are doing the right thing, and I know I would do exactly what you are doing, and once again your sis rocks!
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I couldn't open the page. I got to the post, but it said the story had moved. What's it about?
ReplyDeleteI hate trying to put web links on the blog. Maybe I'm doing something wrong. If you google Washington Post Too Much to Carry...the story will come up. Sorry!
ReplyDeleteI couldn't open it, nor find it....??
ReplyDeletei found it.
ReplyDeleteBbchi, almost made me cry too. and i'm not in your situation.
your decision is sound. your sister has children of her own that need to he thought of as well.
the article was very well written (style wise), which resonates to reader...probably why we almost cried.
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2007/05/15/AR2007051501730.html
ReplyDeletejust paste that to your browser.
ReplyDeleteWow.... The article is very moving. I don't know what I would do in that position~ thought about it many times, and have no resolve or solution.
ReplyDeleteWhat does everyone else think?
Not sure if you know, BBB, we will be going thru that procedure 4.7.10. 4 to 2. It's not a situation we ever wanted to be in and if I could go back and put 2 embryos instead of 3, I probably would (one split). But it's too risky to have such preemie babies and too risky for my sister's health (she's my surrogate...not sure if you know) to go forward this way. It's sad and it sucks, but it's what we have to do.
ReplyDeleteVery eye-opening article. I choked up a few times too. I hope I am never put in the position you are in, BBChi, but if I were, I would not hesitate for one second to do the same thing.
ReplyDeleteGreat article! I read it a few weeks ago when I was researching information for my procedure...it's hard to make this decision...
ReplyDeletebbchi - I knew your sister was your surrogate (angel) but I didn't know the rest. I completely know how hard this must be for you and can only imagine the thoughts and emotions that you and your husband have gone through - continue to go through. It must have been disorienting when you heard the news. If I were in your situation, I too would take the steps to ensure a healthy pregnancy. I have no judgement, only empathy and without sounding trite, my heart goes out to you and I hope for the best results possible.
ReplyDelete"hope2bpregnant" are you going through something similar?
It's kinda a cosmic twist for those of us that TTC and have losses only to go, as stated in the article, to "famine to feast..."
Now I am crying....
Wow- that is such a moving article. BBCHI. I had no idea you had to go through this, but you are right, you cannot risk the health or your sister or the babies. I highly commend you for everything your about to go through, you are a brave woman. Good luck!!
ReplyDeleteBBCHI: Haven't read the article yet, but I think I was able to fix your link for you. :)
ReplyDeleteNow...I read.
thanks KB...how do you do that?
ReplyDeleteHey BB - I clicked the little pencil icon to edit the post. Then I clicked "Link" (it's blue and underlined)...that gives you the option to enter the web address and also to choose the text you wish to display, so you don't have to have just the web address show. You can do this while making a new post, too. Just look for the blue, underlined "Link" at the top of the box where all the tools are for font, etc.
ReplyDeleteLet me know if you have other questions. :)
bbchi - thanks for sharing the article, it was very well written, and I also got choked up a little. I feel that you are doing the right thing, and I know I would do exactly what you are doing, and once again your sis rocks!
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