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Thursday, February 18, 2010

Real Simple Advice

I recently read this in Real Simple in the "Modern Manners/Life Lessons" Q&A section.

"What is the kindest way to let a friend who is struggling with infertility know that you are pregnant?" asked Hannah Murray in Portland OR

Julie (who used to be a writer/producer for Sex and the City and has one daughter) says: "Having been on both sides of this situation, I can say it's one of the hardest, for everyone involved. On the one hand, when you're struggling to get pregnant, the last thing you need is to be reminded how damned easy it is (or at least it seems) for other people to get pregnant. On the other hand, infertility can be isolating, and the feeling that friends might be withholding information in an effort to protect you can make that sense of loneliness even worse. So don't hide your news from her, but preface it by saying, "I've been struggling with how to tell you this, because I know what you've been going though...." Then cut to the chase. After you've shared your news, it's hard to say how your friend will react. She might be fine with it or have lots of questions for you, or she might suddenly have to take another call. Remember-however she reacts, you didn't do anything wrong. Hopefully, in time, she'll be able to join you in your happiness whether or not she has a baby of her own."

I wasn't sure how I felt after I read it. What do you guys think of that?